Play or Be Played: What to Look for in a Man, and How to Get It

by Tariq Nasheed

I was appearing as a guest on this one talk show, discussing my philosophies on relationships, and one of the topics was “How a woman can please her man.” There were a couple of female authors on the panel who were trying to explain what men want, and how a woman can make them happy, and so on. These women were so off the mark, it was ridiculous.

They were advising women to use all sorts of sex toys, scented powders, exotic oils, and bubble baths. One of the women on the panel actually advised women to use a dildo on their man if they want to get him aroused.

These women were so caught up in relaying their misinformation, they didn’t even bother to notice the uncomfortable reactions coming from the men in the audience. As I looked around, I saw some of the male audience members cringing as they listened to the nonsense coming from these female “experts.” These women were going on about how women can please their men by using candles, rose petals, aroma beads, and the like, until I just broke in and said what was on all the fellas’ minds.

“Look ladies, men don’t really like none of that stuff. We’re relatively simple. If you want to please us, just give us oral sex and food.”

The men in the audience erupted into applause. The women on the panel were flabbergasted. One of the female panelists replied, “Well, some men like these sexual accessories.” I explained to her that men will tolerate those accessories, because they don’t want to do anything to kill the mood. But generally, men can do without all those foreplay items.

Then, one of the ladies made the million-dollar statement that revealed their real agenda.

“Well, what about a woman’s needs?”

But the topic was supposed to be about how women can please their man. You see, that’s the problem. A lot of women claim they want to know how to please their man, but they really have an ulterior motive.

Ladies, men are very, very simple. If women aren’t pleasing their men, it is because they don’t want to please their men. If a woman has an Indian-giver mentality, or if she is disingenuous in her motives, men who may be looking at her as a potential mate can sense that.

Many women ask me what it takes to keep a quality man. Yet, when I then ask them, “If you want a quality man, what are you willing and able to bring to the table?”, a lot of these women are stumped. At the same time, many of these women have a whole list of “what I ain’t gonna do” for a man.

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